Sexual Abuse ruins your ability to have good relationships.
Many sexual abuse survivors say that they really struggle to trust men. This leads them to avoid intimate relationships, become invisible, sabotage relationships in the belief it won’t work out anyway or alternatively become promiscuous. However there is another...
8 Trauma Damages you forever
This is a belief that is commonly held by many including the medical model. This used to be the case before we had the neuroscience and the psychotherapeutic approaches that we have now. The mind and body may discharge trauma if treated appropriately. The brain may...
Constellation Facilitators, Join me in Advanced training in Recovery From Sexual Abuse and Trauma.
The Me Too movement and the Royal Commission for Sexual Abuse has highlighted how common sexual abuse is in the community and the trail of devastation it leaves with those who experience it, through institutions, organisations, the education system and also family...
7 Telling the Story of your sexual abuse can help others
This may feel like the case when you are in it but this can end up as a collection of people telling their sad or tragic story and over time can overwhelm your view of the world. Terrible as it is and I know it can be really destroying on all levels, telling the story...
6 Telling the story saves others.
When something bad happens, it is natural to want to warn others, so that they can avoid it. This is a good intention. It is definitely helpful to let people know some practical advise, to protect their drinks from being spiked, avoid certain dating procedures or apps...
5 Telling the world about how terrible the sexual abuse was helps with healing
While it’s true that you may gain some relief initially in telling others what happened to you and also expose you deep emotional wounds, this is not the answer to real self-healing. There are several level of healing that need to take place. Telling the story is good...
3 ‘Telling the story is necessary for healing’
While there is such a lot of stigma and shame involved in letting people know you were sexually assaulted, due to worries about judgement and what people might think, it requires a lot to speak up on the matter. Being able to speak about it, has a place, especially if...
2 ‘The best you can do is become a survivor’.
Being a victim has a stigma attached to it that no one wants to carry. In a culture and medical model that has no belief or effective therapeutic modalities to recovery, the deep conflicts left by sexual assault, in the mind and body of the person involved, the only...
1‘You can’t recover from sexual abuse’.
The traditional approach which includes the medical model in Australia and in other parts of the world, is that recovery from sexual abuse is not possible. The medical model is largely influenced by their belief that once the brain or mind is broken, it can’t be fully...
19 Misconceptions about Sexual Abuse
You can’t recover. The best you can do is become a survivor. It ruins your ability to engage in good relationships. Telling the story helps with the symptoms. Telling the world about how terrible it is helps with the symptoms. Telling the story saves others. ...