Sexual Abuse Explained

TYPES OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE WE CAN HELP WITH

The problem is, deep traumaand pain are frequently repressed in the unconscious mind so is not available to the conscious mind. Present traditional methodologies while having good intentions work with the conscious mind, thereby missing the mark in terms of working in the areas of the brain (mind) where the problems or damage are to be found. Instead they rely on approaches that work with cognitions and behaviour(conscious elements) through talk-therapies, mainly Cognitive behavioural therapy, support groups and a range of creative therapies and mindfulness. Well meaning, but lacking the knowledge or skills of appropriate methodologies to safely locate and process problematic thoughts, emotions and trauma efficiently. Often victims remain survivors.

 

Methodologies created and used by Yildiz, work with the unconscious mind in a safe and non-traumatising manner. These are Emotional Mind Integrationand Rapid Core Healing. Their innovation has been informed by 19 years of my work with clients in seeking the most effective ways of working that really make a difference. These are created from the best of former psychotherapeutic techniques and Systemic Constellations and the latest in neuroscience and epigenetics. The latest findings in neuroscience show that the brain can heal as described in The Brain’s Way of Healing  by psychiatrist Norman Doidge and The Science of Beliefs by cell biologist Bruce Lipton.  

Yildiz is a Registered psychotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Systemic Constellations practitioner, author and trainer who has founded and trademarked two new ways of working for deep change and self-healing of disturbances and recovery from sexual abuse and trauma. These provide a gentle and efficient way for people to move on, in living more fully.

You may find this hard to believe as this goes against the flow of what the medical model advocate for the treatment and recovery of sexual abuse. Give it a try.

Sexual abuse comes in many forms and here are a list of some of them and some of the impacts of sexual abuse.

 

TYPES OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE WE CAN HELP WITH

Sexual abuse is common, particularly for women and girls. Ninety percent of all rapes are committed against women. One in six women have experienced rape. One in five girls and one in 20 boys experience childhood sexual abuse.

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Sexual abuse and sexual assault are terms used to refer to many crimes. Some are:

  • Rape
  • Child molestation
  • Incest
  • Non-consensual sexual contact
    This category includes any unwanted sexual touching, such as groping or pinching. Attempted rape can also fall into this category.
  • Non-contact sexual abuse
    Not all sexual abuse fits neatly into common legal or psychological definitions.
  • Sexual abuse in the workplace
    This is a difficult area as you may really like your job and don’t want to leave or there are no other jobs in your area.

The laws governing sexual abuse are constantly changing and  most professionals rely on the person’s feelings, not the law, when determining whether a sexual assault has occurred. For example, marital rape can be deeply traumatic and is often part of an abusive relationship. Yet marital rape did not become a crime anywhere until the 1970s.

SEXUAL VIOLENCE IN THE MILITARY

Sexual violence occurs in the military,

  • Nearly 5% of all women and 1% of all men on active duty reported experiencing unwanted sexual contact.
  • Nearly half of reports from women involved penetrative sexual assault (rape or penetration with an object). This rate was 35% for men.

Due to the gender ratios in the military, more men experience sexual violence than women. A man in the military is 10 times more likely to be sexually assaulted than a civilian man.

Most perpetrators commit these crimes out of a desire for domination. Offenders often wish to establish control over their “inferiors.” Sexual attraction is rarely the motivating factor.

Sexual violence among service members is an under-reported crime. Studies suggest only one in four survivors of military sexual assault report their attacks. Among male survivors, an estimated 81% never report their attacks.

SEXUAL ABUSE IN THE WORKPLACE

People who report their assaults often face retaliation. Female victims may face retaliation. They could be shunned by colleagues or blamed for the assault. Survivors of both genders may face consequences in their professional lives. Some are even discharged or asked to move on.

Victims may face barriers to mental health treatment. You may not want to move from this job as you may like the job or there’d are shortage of  jobs available in the locality.

MALE VICTIMS OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE

Men who experience sexual assault can face severe stigma.  In many cultures there is  a belief that holds the belief that men have a right to sex and that men cannot also be victims of sexual assault.

When men report sexual assault, they often face doubt and ridicule. Others may blame the abuse on the man’s character or sexual orientation. Victim blaming is also likely when a man accuses a woman of sexual abuse.

Due to stigma, male survivors are frequently reluctant to name their experiences as rape or abuse. Some may not mention the event at all. A reluctance to disclose can prevent men from getting treatment. Without professional help, some men resort to substance abuse  or self-harm.

SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE IN THE  LGBTQI COMMUNITY

Sexual assault on  LGBTQI  individuals occur too. Hate crimes account for many sexual assaults against  them.

CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE

The sexual abuse of children can take place in different ways. It may involve a stranger or someone as close as a parent. A child doesn’t need to be touched to be sexually abused.  Watching a child undress or shower, count as sexual abuse. Adults who expose their genitalia to children are also committing abuse.

An adult who sexually abuses children may have a sexual attraction yet it isn’t necessary  to commit abuse. A perpetrator could abuse a child to gain power over them.

Childhood sexual abuse is common.

Children who experience abuse do not always report it right away  due to power the offender has over the child.

children who have been sexually abused know their attackers well. An offender will often threaten or manipulate the child to prevent them from disclosing the abuse.

Over a third of abusers are part of the child’s family.

Child targets do not disclose the abuse for a long time if ever.

Reporting sexual abuse may prevent a child from having mental health concerns in adulthood. People who experienced sexual abuse as children are at greater risk of substance abuse or eating and food issues. They are also more likely to be sexually abused as adults or become abusers themselves.

WHAT IS SEXUAL HARASSMENT?

Sexual harassment often is sexual assault. The definitions of both sexual assault and sexual harassment include non-consensual sexual contact, there are some distinct differences.

The term “sexual harassment” is often used in a legal context. sexual harassment includes:

  • Unwanted sexual advances or contact
  • Harassing a person on the basis of their sex
  • Making offensive comments or jokes about a particular sex
  • Pressure to go on a date or perform sexual favours

Sexual harassment can occur anywhere, but many of the laws that protect people who may experience sexual harassment refer to harassment in the workplace. The broader definition of sexual harassment can include cat-calling, making sexual gestures or comments toward a person, staring, referring to someone using demeaning language such as “babe” or “hunk,” and giving unwanted or personal gifts.

MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES RESULTING FROM SEXUAL ASSAULT

After sexual assault, survivors may feel their bodies are not really their own. Survivors often have feelings of shame, terror or guilt. Many blame themselves for the assault.

Due to the trauma and negative emotions survivors of sexual abuse may develop:

  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Post-traumatic stress (PTSD)
  • Personality
  • Disruptions:  e.g.  borderline personality.
  • Attachment issues
  • Addiction

Sexual abuse does not only leave psychological scars. It can also have long-lasting health consequences. You may not feel emotionally and physically in control and not coping of what happened:

  • Not wanting to eat
  • Eating too much.
  • Flashbacks
  • Nightmares
  • Mood swings
  • Nausea
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Feeling dirty and wanting to shower often
  • Some survivors experience sexual dysfunction.

It does not have to be a life sentence. You can recover.

INFORMED BY NEUROSCIENCE AND THE BEST OF PSYCHOTHERAPY THERE IS LIFE AFTER SEXUAL ASSAULT AND ABUSE

Having a mental health concern does not make you “weak” or “broken.” People cope with trauma in different ways.

Therapy with us offers a safe, private place to get help without judgement. You don’t have to be alone with this anymore.